Wednesday, April 4, 2007
Today's Inspiration: Are Your Friends an Elevator or a Cage?
Thanks to the phenomenal Christine Kane, I was lead to this post today by Steve Pavlina. This is my first time reading his blog but with wisdom like this, it's certainly not going to be my last. Here are some excerpts which particularly inspired me:
"Let’s explore the role of the people in your life. Are they elevating you to be the best person you can be, or are they holding you back?"
"I don’t think I need to convince you just how much influence other people can have over your identity. If you’ve ever experienced a major shift in your people environment, then you know that you change as well."
"Think for a moment about the 5-10 people with whom you spend the most time. Even include online communities if you spend a lot of time reading them — which individuals are having the most influence over your thinking right now? Actually write out the list — it should only take a minute. And this includes family members.
Now look at the list. It’s been said that this list will give you a glimpse into your future.
Do you want to become more like these people? Yes or no. Is anyone on the list a bad influence that causes you to backslide? Is anyone on the list a shining light that encourages you to reach new heights?"
I've been thinking a lot about the dynamics of relationships, when to hold on and when to let go. I've done a bit of letting go lately, and have felt some twinges of guilt over it. After much soulsearching, though, I realize that the decisions were good ones, that I did what I needed to do to save myself. I am consciously choosing people now who, as Steve says, "encourage me to reach new heights." I've always been afraid of heights, frankly, but I think it's high time I face that fear and challenge myself to break free from the cages and continue to skyrocket..straight to the top! There's nothing stopping me but my own self.