Friday, November 20, 2009
November 19, 2009
Benefits of Calm
Leo Daily Horoscope
You may feel stressed as you deal with a hectic schedule today. You might be hurrying to meet deadlines or laboring under a burdensome workload, which could leave you feeling overwhelmed and frustrated. Since the quality of your thoughts are often more powerful in determining the type of day you have, you may want to take a few minutes to embrace a more peaceful focus. Taking time to meditate on a peaceful image or thought can give you a greater sense of inner balance, while stepping out to burn off excess energy through brisk activity can clear your mind and improve your endurance. The activities you pursue are not as important as the benefits you will enjoy by choosing to release tension and embrace a calmer focus today.
A calm mind-set improves our concentration and lightens our mood, giving us the ability to overcome distractions and accomplish our work quickly and easily. Though it can be challenging to rise above frustration and embrace a calm focus, doing so can mean the difference between feeling stressed or productive. Simply by choosing to release stressful thoughts and bring ourselves back into mental and emotional balance, we immediately feel more in control of our situation. Our focus then improves, our stress evaporates, and we are able to continue with our work feeling inspired and confident. With an intention to embrace a calm focus in all of your activities today, you will give yourself the freedom and flexibility needed to overcome distractions and complete your work with ease.
Yesterday couldn't have been farther from calm. Oh, it started out fine with a typical morning at the office followed by errands, laundry, housekeeping and packing for vacation but then things went terribly awry.
You see, Beren is still having "issues" with his ex-wife which are causing us quite a bit of stress. The details don't matter, it's about what most causes many divorces and subsequently post-divorce fracas: Money. Oh, yeah, and more importantly: Children. Though the dirty deed was finalized nearly two years ago (after a lengthy separation), they have still not found an amicable, peaceful way to communicate. Is it her fault? Yes. Is it his fault? Yes. As we divorce survivors know, there are always two sides to every story and I am close enough to the situation to see both sides, even if I don't always agree with them.
So, moving forward to yesterday, we had an appointment scheduled with his attorney for the afternoon, just before picking up his girls and heading out of town with them. Probably not the best timing but logistically there was no other way. From the way things have been playing out lately, I knew in my heart that this was not going to be a "normal" exchange of children. I anticipated drama at the least, a major upset at the most, but what I didn't expect his girls being escorted to our car by police escort. I didn't think it would get that far, couldn't imagine his ex would barricade them in the house & refuse to send them out to us, leaving him no option but to get law enforcement involved.
As you can imagine, the three-hour ride to our destination was not pleasant. The children were tense, I was upset & shaking, Beren was furious. I ask you this: what happened to doing things in the "best interest of the children?" Somehow along the way that notion was tossed out the window, wasn't it? Because surely this level of chronic stress & pressure can't be good for them, it certainly isn't for me. I've seen divorce from every aspect now and while I've made some mistakes along the way, I always tried to keep my children's interests a top priority, protecting them as best I could. I am rewarded with an amazing relationship with Strider, Husband #1, and a (mostly) amicable relationship with Husband #2. Let's face it, the aftermath of a stormy divorce isn't always smooth sailing but it doesn't have to be a constant typhoon either.
Today is a new day and I'm hoping things will settle down, that we will find some peace & harmony if only in This House, under my roof, because that's the only thing I can attempt to control. As for the rest of it, I guess at this point a court date is in our future, and all that that entails.
Wish me luck, I think I'm going to need it.