Thursday, July 16, 2009

I'd Like a Ticket Refund, Please

Alive In Joy
Dispelling Drama

There are scores of people in the world who seem to be magnets for calamity. They live their lives jumping from one difficult to the next, surrounded by unstable individuals. Some believe themselves victims of fate and decry a universe they regard as malevolent. Others view their chaotic circumstances as just punishments for some failing within. Yet, in truth, neither group has been fated or consigned to suffer. They are likely unconsciously drawing drama into their lives, attracting catastrophe through their choices, attitudes, and patterns of thought. Drama, however disastrous, can be exciting and stimulating. But the thrill of pandemonium eventually begins to frustrate the soul and drain the energy of all who embrace it. To halt this process, we must understand the root of our drama addiction, be aware of our reactions, and be willing to accept that a serene, joyful life need not be a boring one.

Many people, so used to living in the dramatic world they create, feel uncomfortable when confronted with the prospect of a lifetime of peace and contentment. The drama in their lives serves multiple purposes. Upset causes excitement, prompting the body to manufacture adrenaline, which produces a pleasurable surge of energy. For those seeking affection in the form of sympathy, drama forms the basis of their identity as a victim. And when drama is familial, many people believe they can avoid abandonment by continuing to play a key role in the established family dynamic. The addiction to drama is fed by the intensity of the feelings evoked during bouts of conflict, periods of uncertainty, and upheaval.

Understanding where the subconscious need for drama stems from is the key to addressing it effectively. Journaling can help you transfer this need from your mind onto a benign piece of paper. After repeated writing sessions, your feelings regarding the mayhem, hurt feelings, and confusion often associated with drama become clear. When you confront your emotional response to drama and the purpose it serves in your life, you can reject it. Each time you consciously choose not to take part in dramatic situations or associate with dramatic people, you create space in your inner being that is filled with a calm and tranquil stillness and becomes an asset in your quest to lead a more centered life.

Yesterday's Daily Om was so powerful that I took an extra day to read and process. I seem to have a lot of drama in my life and lately I've been wondering if it's me, something I'm doing wrong, if I'm attracting it, or if it's just coincidence. And what defines drama, anyway? Is there any way to truly avoid it while living a life full of people?

Granted, my life with the exes, current, stepchildren, etc. may be slightly more complicated than most but really, I don't think I do anything to bring these situations to me, or am I?

Is it simply how we react to situations that make them drama as opposed to just, well, regular occurrences? If so, how do I learn to respond differently when a possible dramatic event presents itself?

Really something to ponder while I await Beren's arrival so that we may discuss and hopefully curtail the latest DRAMA that's set to begin. I'd love some input from you all, dear readers because at this point I'm really tired of being on stage or even in the front row. I'd much would prefer to slink quietly backstage and just peer out from the curtains now & then.


Anonymous said...

All really great things to think about.

I am working through something similar right now and think it's a combination of factors. Sometimes the same situation presents itself over and over as a learning opportunity. Sometimes our internal tuning forks are set in some funky mode so we seem to attract people on the same wave length. Sometimes we need to fall apart completely in order to rebuild.

No easy answers, although I find when I stop reading negative things into actions, assume something positive and focus on the moment, life is much cheerier.

It will be interesting to read what others think about this. And I wish you all the best as you move forward.

Aurora said...

I am in the reactionary camp: it can't be drama unless you buy into the dramatic, over-the-top energy that presents itself. Staying centered a focused within a swirl of dramatic energy is good practice for self-realization.

Practice grounding and centering while facing the drama.

Rapunzel said...

Thank you so much for the comments, am still trying to find the answers myself. Your input gives me even more to reflect on! xoxox