Wednesday, October 31, 2007

The Witches' New Year


A year of beauty. A year of plenty.
A year of planting. A year of harvest.
A year of forests. A year of healing.
A year of vision. A year of passion.
A year of rebirth.

This year may we renew the earth.
This year may we renew the earth.

Let it begin with each step we take.
And let it begin with each change we make.
And let it begin with each chain we break.
And let it begin every time we awake.

--Chant from the
Reclaiming Samhain Celebration


Samhain--pronounced sow-(rhymes with now)-in--more popularly known as Halloween, is the Witches' New Year, Wicca's most solemn and festive holiday. In my book "The Spiral Dance," I describe it as "the night when the veil is thin that divides the worlds...when the harvest is gathered and the fields lie fallow. The gates of life and death are opened and to the living is revealed the Mystery: that every ending is but a new beginning."

For Pagans, death and birth are intertwined. Our goddesses and gods all represent aspects of the cycle of birth, growth, death, and regeneration. Every good gardener knows that fertility is born out of decay. Every fallen leaf becomes part of the soil that feeds the roots of growing trees."

Pagans have no dogma that must be accepted. Our spirituality centers on experience, not faith. Yet if we were to hold one common belief, it might be that our individuality lives on after death. We remain part of our communities, alive and present in a different realm.

At Samhain, we take time to remember and commune with those who have gone before, to express gratitude for what they've given us. In our frantic pace, we tend to forget our past. Few of us know much about our families beyond a generation or two back. Remembering the dead can help us keep a sense of connection to our roots.
by Starhawk

In my home, we honor those who have passed by putting up an altar on the living room table. We put up pictures and memorabilia, light a candle and say a prayer of remembrance. We often set an extra place at the table for the deceased ones during Samhain dinner, welcoming their spirits on the night when the veils between the world is thinnest.

Samhain is also a time of inner reflection and renewal for us, an opportunity to wash put away the old year and start anew. This means looking at the things that aren't working in my life, deciding what to keep and what to cast aside, and making some new affirmations.

The coming year is less about emotional/relationship changes and will be more focused on physical ones, personal things affecting my health. I am 43 years old and have so many wonderful things in my life, so many fabulous transitions have finally taken place, yet I feel like I'm being held back by my body, by not being as healthy as I should be. Oh, it's nothing big, just little aches and pains that weren't there before, as well as the obvious 20 pounds I'm still carrying around. I need to turn inward, figure out what's causing me to feel unwell, and to gently bring myself back to a healthier place. I can do this.

Blessed Samhain, Happy New Year.

Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Today's Inspiration: Offering Comfort


This Daily Om really resonates with me today; three of the people closest to me in life are struggling with some difficult situations. They are angry, hurt and heartbroken, for different reasons but with the same results. I want to do my "Leo thing" which is jump in and help (and put my claws into the person(s) who caused their distress) but know that there's truly nothing I can do except sit back, hold their hands and heart, and listen when they want to talk. I can also do this: send healing thoughts & energy, and ask you all to do the same.

Daily Om: October 29, 2007
Simple Gestures Of Solace
Offering Comfort


Sometimes it is difficult to see someone we love struggling, in pain, or hurting. When this happens, we might feel like we need to be proactive and do something to ease their troubles. While others may want our help, it is important to keep in mind that we need to be sensitive to what they truly want in the moment, since it can be all too easy to get carried away and say or do more than is really needed. Allowing ourselves to let go and simply exist in the present with another person may actually provide a greater amount of comfort and support than we could ever imagine.

Perhaps we can think back to a time when we were upset and needed a kind word, hug, or listening ear from someone else. As we remember these times, we might think of the gestures of kindness that were the most healing. It may have been gentle words such as “I care about you,” or the soothing presence of someone holding us and not expecting anything that were the most consoling. When we are able to go back to these times it becomes easier for us to keep in mind that giving advice or saying more than is really necessary is not always reassuring. What is truly comforting for another is not having someone try to fix them or their problems, but to just be there for them. Should we begin to feel the urge arise to offer advice or repair a situation, we can take a few deep breaths, let the impulse pass, and bring our attention back to the present. Even though we may want to do more, we do not have to do anything other than this to be a good friend.

The more we are attuned to what our loved ones are feeling, the more capable we are of truly giving what is best for them in their hour of need. Keeping things simple helps us give the part of ourselves that is capable of the greatest amount of compassion—open ears and an understanding heart

Monday, October 29, 2007

And for Dessert..


I'm going to ask the girls to help me make these this afternoon!

Candy Corn Popcorn Balls


If kids are helping shape these treats, make sure the marshmallow mixture is cool enough for them to handle. Store the confections in an airtight container for up to three days.


8 cups popped light butter microwave popcorn (about 1 [3-ounce] bag)
1 cup candy corn
1/4 cup butter
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 (10-ounce) bag marshmallows
Cooking spray

Combine popcorn and candy corn in a large bowl.
Melt 1/4 cup butter in a large saucepan over medium heat; stir in 1/4 teaspoon salt and (10-ounce) bag marshmallows. Reduce heat to low; cook for 7 minutes or until the marshmallows melt and the mixture is smooth, stirring frequently.

Pour marshmallow mixture over popcorn mixture, stirring to coat well. Lightly coat hands with cooking spray; shape popcorn mixture into 20 (2-inch) balls.

Yield: 20 servings (serving size: 1 popcorn ball)

CALORIES 212 (12% from fat); FAT 2.9g (sat 1.6g,mono 0.1g,poly 0.1g); PROTEIN 0.5g; CHOLESTEROL 6mg; CALCIUM 1mg; SODIUM 73mg; FIBER 0.4g; IRON 0.1mg; CARBOHYDRATE 47.6g

Cooking Light, OCTOBER 2004

On My Hearth: Spaghetti and Eyeballs


I try to make something fun for dinner Halloween night, but since Lily will be working then and Beren's girls happen to be with us tonight, I'm going to move the meal ahead a couple of days.

I was planning to make meatloaf mice but after what happened with Lily's rat..gulp..I didn't think that was such a good idea. So, courtesy of Family Fun magazine, Spaghetti and eyeballs it is! I'll be using lean ground turkey instead of the beef.

Halloween Spaghetti and Eyeballs

2 lbs. lean ground beef
1 1/2 cups seasoned bread crumbs
2 tbsp. ketchup
2 eggs
1 tbsp. fresh basil or 1 tsp. dried
1 7-oz. jar pimiento-stuffed olives
1 26-oz. jar prepared pasta sauce
1 lb. spaghetti
1 tbsp. olive oil

Step 1
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.

Step 2
Mix the ground beef, bread crumbs, ketchup, eggs and basil in a large bowl. Using the meat mixture, form about 30 small meatballs.

Step 3
To make the eyeballs, press an olive into each meatball, pimiento side out. Place the eyeballs in a baking dish, cover with the pasta sauce, and bake for 45 minutes.

Step 4
Meanwhile, cook the spaghetti in boiling salted water. Drain and rinse the spaghetti and toss with 1 tablespoon of olive oil to prevent strands from sticking together. Put it on a platter or in a large serving bowl.

Step 5
Spoon the eyeballs onto the spaghetti, irises up, and spoon the pasta sauce around them. Makes 10 servings.

Sunday, October 28, 2007

Spooky Fun





Beren and I went out with friends last night, hit a couple of bars to see our favorite bands perform. We had such a great time but I guess that's the last time I'll be wearing my Bettie Devil costume for a while....or is it? *wink* *wink*

Saturday, October 27, 2007

The Cruelty of Nature


We cat-owners are well-aware of the hunting prowess of our feline friends, have undoubtedly been gifted with bugs, lizards, birds, etc. that the precious creatures have hunted and killed for us. At that point we are supposed to praise the pet, stroke her head and quietly dispose of the victim. I accept that, I understand the reasoning, the fact that the primal need to hunt is still quite present even in those "domesticated." What I have a hard time with, what I'm sick over this morning, is coming home from a road trip to find that one of other other pets have been at the receiving end of such wildness. It appears that Jezebel, left to her own devices for a whole day, apparently discovered a way to "free" Lily's baby rat from his cage. We found the empty cage and of course expected the worse but somehow hoped for the best. So, with Beren sleeping soundly beside me, I lay in bed and waited, knowing that once the house became dark and quiet the little guy would reveal himself and then hopefully I could catch him before the cats did. No such luck. Within moments I heard scurrying on my floor, then Jezebel leapt on my bed meowing loudly. I jumped up to find a dead little rat on the floor, right in the front of my bed. Sobbing and gasping, I took care of the body while Jezzie watched, no doubt awaiting her kudos. Sorry, not this time. I understand nature, I respect and honor the circle of life, but having to wake Lily with the news this morning, watching her break down in sobs and curse the cat...I'm don't think that praise will be forthcoming anytime soon.

Update: Jezebel is forgiven and Lily has a new baby thanks to her mommy and Kevin who went to the pet store and adopted the deceased one's brother. He is a cutie, an albino with shiny pink eyes, perfect for Halloween! *wink*

Friday, October 26, 2007

Witchy Greetings!

This video is so awesome, just had to share! Eartha Kitt..sigh...adore her!

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

On My Hearth: Vegetarian Burrito Casserole

Since the girls enjoyed the broccoli casserole so much, I thought I'd try another one tonight. From Allrecipes, this sounds like a great way to use up some leftovers I have in the fridge! Again, thanks to my stocked pantry, I have everything on hand! I'll be using healthier brown rice and adding a bit of leftover corn. I'll be leaving out the jalapeno since they are not as fond of spicy food as their Mom.

Vegetarian Burrito Casserole

Prep Time: 20 Minutes
Cook Time: 45 Minutes Ready In: 1 Hour 5 Minutes
Yields: 8 servings

"Soy burger-style crumbles, tomatoes, rice, vegetarian refried beans, cheese, and taco seasonings all layered on top of flour tortillas and baked. A tasty vegetarian treat that will send even the meat lovers running back for more!"

INGREDIENTS:

3/4 cup white rice
1 1/2 cups water
1 (12 ounce) package frozen soy burger-style crumbles
1 (28 ounce) can whole tomatoes, drained, 1/4 cup juice reserved
2 1/2 teaspoons chili powder
1 teaspoon cumin
1 (1.25 ounce) package taco seasoning mix
2 (10 inch) burrito-size flour tortillas
1 (14.25 ounce) can vegetarian refried beans, divided
2 fresh jalapeno peppers - seeded, sliced, and divided
1 1/2 cups salsa, divided
2 1/2 cups shredded Cheddar cheese, divided

DIRECTIONS:

1. In a saucepan bring water to a boil. Add rice and stir. Reduce heat, cover, and simmer for 20 minutes.

2. Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C).

3. Place soy crumbles, tomatoes, reserved tomato juice, chili powder, cumin, and taco seasoning in a medium frying pan over medium high heat. Cook and stir, breaking up tomatoes, for 10 minutes.

4. Lay 1 flour tortilla in a lightly greased 8x8 inch baking dish. Layer with one half of the beans, jalapeno slices, rice, salsa, soy mixture, and 1 cup Cheddar cheese. Repeat layers with remaining ingredients, beginning with the flour tortilla, and top with remaining 1 1/2 cups Cheddar cheese.

5. Bake in the preheated oven for 15 minutes, or until heated through and cheese is melted. Serve immediately.

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Today's Inspiration: Your Horoscope Bird of Power


An interesting article, and funny that my kitchen contains two of my favorite treasures: peacock feathers acquired during my stay at the Amish bed & breakfast years ago, and the rooster coffee mug I grab every day!

Your Horoscope Bird of Power

Inspired by Earth Magic, by Claire Nahmad

Ever wish you could fly? Your sun sign is traditionally associated with different birds that can carry messages to the Great Spirit for you, offer spirit-support and healing, or sing a song for your soul. Find out which birds are your horoscope birds of power here.

Aries, March 21-April 19: vulture, magpie, robin.

Taurus, April 20-May 21: dove, sparrow, swan.

Gemini, May 22-June 20: parrot, linnet, eagle, finch.

Cancer, June 21-July 22: seagull, owl, white peacock.

Leo, July 23- Aug 22: peacock, rooster, eagle.

Virgo, Aug 23-Sept 22: rooster, magpie, parrot.

Libra, Sept 23-Oct 22: dove, swan, sparrow.

Scorpio, Oct 23-Nov 21: eagle, vulture.

Sagittarius, Nov 22-Dec 21: eagle, peacock, bird of paradise.

Capricorn, Dec 22-Jan 19: owl, falcon.

Aquarius, Jan 20-Feb 18: cuckoo, albatross.

Pisces, Feb 19-March 20: swan, stork, sandpiper.

What Makes You Feel Secure?


Some time ago I saw this question posed, either in a blog, magazine, somewhere..and it made me think. The responses ranged from the obvious: money, happy relationship, etc. to the unusual: a linen closet filled with fluffy white towels. In my case, once I get past the necessities (enough cash in the bank to pay my bills and a loving family), it's got to be a fully-stocked pantry.

I'm not sure where this comes from as we were never so poor as to be concerned about food, but I'm not comfortable unless my freezer and pantry are filled. I need to know that no matter what happens, I can feed my family for a few days (weeks?) from what I have on hand. Beren teases me about it, shakes his head every time I say I need to go food shopping, can't understand what we could possibly need. Well, we don't need anything per se, but I like to stock up when things are on sale, am a fanatic for BOGO specials, combine them with coupons and I'm a happy gal! The kids know that if they ever run out of anything, a quick trip to the "Rapunzel store" should fulfill their needs.

I love being able to throw together a meal (such as last night's casserole) without having to leave the house, just using items I've already purchased at a good price. Sometimes I'll get creative and pick an item from the pantry or freezer, try to make a meal around that ingredient. I've come up with some interesting dishes, let me tell you!

Now, I must admit that my pantry looks nothing like the above pic..sigh...if only! Mine consists of a cabinet in my kitchen as well as several shelves in the laundry room. Someday, though, I'll have the pantry of my dreams...

Monday, October 22, 2007

On My Hearth: Broccoli-Noodle Casserole

I don't normally cook on Mondays, we usually just munch on leftovers or grab something prepared from the freezer. Today, however, I feel like making something filling for my girls; they've been living on leftover party fare since the weekend and have to be sick of it by now!

Broccoli-noodle Casserole Recipe

I like to use whole wheat, yolk-free noodles, low-fat soup, mayo and cheese in this dish to make it more healthy.

Ingredients

* * 2 packages (10 ounces each) frozen chopped broccoli
* * 8 ounces medium egg noodles
* * 2 eggs, beaten
* * 1 can (10-3/4 ounces) condensed cream of mushroom soup
* * 1 cup grated sharp cheddar cheese
* * 1 cup mayonnaise
* * 2 tablespoons minced onion
* * 1/2 cup milk
* * cracker crumbs


Directions

1. Cook the broccoli according to the package directions; drain. Cook the egg noodles according to the package directions; drain. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F.
2. In a large bowl, mix together the eggs, soup, cheese, mayonnaise, onion, and milk. Add the broccoli.
3. In a greased 2-1/2-quart casserole, make several alternating layers of broccoli, sauce, and noodles, beginning and ending with broccoli. Top with cracker crumbs. Bake for 45 minutes. Serve hot.

Sunday, October 21, 2007

On My Hearth: Cowboy Coleslaw


Beren has a craving for grilled corn on the cob so we'll be doing some outdoor cooking this afternoon. The entree will be Boca & Bubba burgers, leftover macaroni salad from our party Friday night. Since I feel the need for more veggies, I headed over to A Veggie Venture and let Alanna inspire me. Matchstick carrots were on sale last week so I scooped some up, this recipe for Cowboy Coleslaw looks perfect for an Autumn bbq in the tropics!

COWBOY COLESLAW
Hands-on time: 15 minutes
Time to table: 15 minutes
Makes 3 cups

2 cups grated carrot (from 3 large carrots, I used a mandoline to grate because I like the perfect little slices but a hand-held grated worked fine too)
1 cup thin-sliced red cabbage (or radicchio)
1/4 cup chopped green onion (don't skip this)
2 tablespoons sunflower seeds (these added crunch but also calories, I don't think they're necessary)

DRESSING
2 tablespoons water
2 tablespoons balsamic vinegar (preferably white)
1 tablespoon olive oil
1 teaspoon Dijon mustard
1 teaspoon sugar
1/4 teaspoon kosher salt
1/4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper

Gently combine the vegetables (hold off on the sunflower seeds if making in advance). Whisk together the dressing ingredients and toss with vegetables. Top with sesame seeds and serve. Can be made a few hours in advance.

NUTRITION ESTIMATE
Per Half Cup, with sunflower seeds: 62 Cal (50% from Fat, 8% from Protein, 42% from Carb); 1 g Protein; 4 g Tot Fat; 0 g Sat Fat; 2 g Mono Fat; 7 g Carb; 2 g Fiber; 4 g Sugar; NetCarb5; 26 mg Calcium; 0 mg Iron; 141 mg Sodium; 0 mg Cholesterol; Weight Watchers 1 point

Per Half Cup, without sunflower seeds: 46 Cal (43% from Fat, 6% from Protein, 51% from Carb); 1 g Protein; 2 g Tot Fat; 0 g Sat Fat; 2 g Mono Fat; 6 g Carb; 2 g Fiber; 4 g Sugar; NetCarb4; 26 mg Calcium; 0 mg Iron; 141 mg Sodium; 0 mg Cholesterol; Weight Watchers 0 points

Biketoberfest or Bust


Yesterday we went on what turned out to be a quick road trip up to Daytona for Biketoberfest, left before lunch and arrived in the late afternoon. We walked down main street, bought some shirts and other souvenirs, had snacks & margaritas at Adobe Gilas on the beach. We had planned on staying overnight, perhaps hit some of the biker bars in the evening, but plans changed when our lodging didn't work out as anticipated. No problem, we just headed South, stopped for a fabulous steak & shrimp dinner, rolled back into town around 1 am. A long day of driving for Beren but we managed to make it fun anyway. Oh, and on the way there, Beren's car hit an amazing milestone, who knew Maximas were such amazing cars?!

A Hauntingly Good Time!


The party last night was a complete success! I dressed up as my favorite pin-up, Bettie Page, in a devil's costume made by Olivia. Beren was, once again, a pirate. Kali was her nemesis, the goddess Kali, Kevin a Samurai.


Lily was an Indian Princess, Bambi Batgirl. Friends and family were treated to tons of food including an 8-foot sub served out of a handmade coffin, chips & dips & chicken wings, cupcakes, and an endless supply of soft drinks, beer, wine, and the most potent jello shots I've ever had! (Thank you, Kali!) Kevin's live art astounded everyone, Pablo's dj skills kept us singing & dancing..just a great time overall. I can't wait til next year to do it all over again!

Friday, October 19, 2007

On My Hearth: Spider's Nest Dip

Lily is making this for the party tonight, it looks delicious!!

Spider's Nest Dip

Recipe courtesy Sandra Lee
Show: Semi-Homemade Cooking with Sandra Lee
Episode: Halloween

2 (8-ounce) package cream cheese
1 (1.25-ounce) package taco seasoning mix
1 1/2 cups sour cream
1 (16-ounce) can black refried beans
1 (12-ounce) package shredded Mexican cheese
1/2 cup fresh chunky salsa (from your grocery's deli section)
1 (2.25-ounce) can chopped black olives
1 cup guacamole (from your grocery's deli section)
1 (15-ounce) can whole black beans, drained and rinsed
4 to 6 bags blue tortilla chips

In a small bowl, mix cream cheese and 1/2 packet of taco seasoning with 1 cup of the sour cream (hold the rest of the sour cream to decorate). Set mixture aside.

Spread a thin layer of refried beans in the bottom of a microwaveable serving dish. Add a layer of shredded cheese. Heat dish in microwave for 1 minute, until cheese is slightly melted.

Drain the salsa and layer it over the cheese. Drain the olives and layer over the salsa. Add a layer of the sour cream mixture. Add a layer of guacamole.

To decorate the top, spoon a medium sized dollop of sour cream in the center. This is the spider's "nest."

Spoon the rest of the sour cream into an air-tight bag. Cut a very small piece out of 1 of the bottom corners of the bag and, starting at the outer edge of the dip, pipe a thin circle around the perimeter. Create another circle half way between the perimeter circle and the center dollop, creating 3 circles.

Using a knife blade, toothpick or skewer, drag a thin line of the sour cream from the "nest" outward toward the edge of the dish. Continue making lines all around the "nest" to complete the spider web design. Position whole black beans onto the sour cream "web."

Embellish with plastic decorative spiders. Serve with a bowl of blue tortilla chips, and watch your guests scurry to get a bite!

Thursday, October 18, 2007


It's a busy time here as we gradually turn our humble abode into a haunted castle for tomorrow night's bash! Fog machines are filled and ready to emit spooky smoke, Pablo is set up to play eeery tunes, the dvd player is loaded with favorite Halloween flicks, food is ordered, bar is stocked, Kali's jello shots are setting up, Kevin's putting the finishing touches on the casket, costumes are purchased..excitement is running high! We are ready to party!

Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Cupcakes for a Cause

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You all know how much I love cupcakes, right? Even when I'm dieting and therefore not indulging myself, I adore baking, decorating and serving them to appreciative friends and family members. So, when I saw this wonderful website, Cupcakes for a Cause, I just had to pass it along to fellow bloggers and cupcake-lovers!

National Cupcakes for a Cause Week is October 15-21, when participating bakeries across the US help support CancerCare for Kids. Help us spread the word now! Design your own virtual E-Cupcake and send it to a friend. It’s cute, fun, and it’s free!

Today's Inspiration: Releasing the Reigns


Groan...this is such a tough concept for me, letting go and letting others be! We controlling Leos fight this kicking & screaming...sigh....very timely lesson for me, though, as I am struggling with the challenges of blending two very different families with very unique personalities and habits. Though I adore all of my family members, both new & old, transition is difficult, emotions run high, and everyone likes to do things his or her own way. We are managing quite nicely, but it ain't easy! Those damned Brady sure made it look so, though, didn't they?

Daily Om October 16, 2007
Releasing The Reigns
Changing Others


Our perception of humanity as a whole is, to a large extent, dualistic. We paint people with a broad brush—some are like us, sharing our opinions and our attitudes, while others are different. Our commitment to values we have chosen to embrace is often so strong that we are easily convinced that our way is the right way. We may find ourselves frustrated by those who view the world from an alternate vantage point and make use of unusual strategies when coping with life's challenges. However ardently we believe that these people would be happier and more satisfied following our lead, we should resist the temptation to try to change them. Every human being has been blessed with a unique nature that cannot be altered by outside forces. We are who we are at any one point in our lives for a reason, and no one person can say for certain what another should be like.

The reasons we try to change one another are numerous. Since we have learned over time to flourish in the richness of lives we have built, we may come to believe that we are qualified to speak on behalf of the greater source. The sum total of our knowledge will never compare to what we do not know, however, and our understanding of others’ lives will forever be limited. The potential we see in the people who are a part of our lives will never be precisely the same as our own, so we do these individuals a disservice when we make assumptions about their intentions, preferences, and goals. Our power lies in our ability to accept others for all their quirks and differences and to let go of the need to control every element of our existence. We can love people for who they are, embracing their uniqueness, or we can love them as human beings from afar.

Your ability to influence people may grow more sophisticated because others sense that you respect their right to be themselves, but you will likely spend more time gazing inward, into the one person you can change: yourself.

Monday, October 15, 2007

Wolf Awareness Week


This is National Wolf Awareness Week as well as Blog Action Day so I'm choosing to focus on one of my special environmental causes - saving my precious wolves.

National Wolf Awareness Week, October 14-20, 2007 is a time to dispel misconceptions about wolves and to teach about the important role these predators play in maintaining healthy ecosystems. It takes place the 3rd week of October every year.

The wolf is a striking symbol of wild nature, yet it has long been shrouded by myth and superstition. Earlier this century, wolves were methodically exterminated from nearly all of their historic range.

National Wolf Awareness Week encourages conservation efforts not only for wolves, but for all wild species. Defenders of Wildlife sponsors events nationwide to celebrate wolves, please check out their website to see how you can help.



In addition, I have discovered an easy way to help the animals by doing something you're probably already doing: shopping!

IGive is a simple way to help the cause of your choice while making purchases from reputable online retailers, what a cool idea!

Here's the link to the Shy Wolf Sanctuary site, please take a peek and consider signing up to help the wolves and other animals that have taken refuge at this phenomenal place. Thanks so much!

Today's Inspiration: They'll...


"They'll" by Cheryl Denise,
from I Saw God Dancing

They'll
take your soul
and put it in a suit,
fit you in boxes
under labels,
make you look like the Joneses.

They'll tell you go a little blonder,
suggest sky-blue
tinted contact lenses,
conceal that birthmark
under your chin.

They'll urge you to have babies
get fulfilled.
They'll say marriage is easy,
flowers from Thornhills
are all you need
to keep it together.

They'll push you to go ahead,
borrow a few more grand,
build a dream house.
Your boys need Nikes,
your girls cheerleading,
and all you need is your job
9 to 5 in the same place.

They'll order you never to cry
in Southern States,
and never, ever dance
in the rain.

They'll repeat all the things
your preschool teacher said
in that squeaky too tight voice.

And when you slowly
let them go,
crack your suit,
ooze your soul
in the sun,
when you run through
the woods with your dog,
read poems to swaying cornfields,
pray in tall red oaks,
they'll whisper
and pretend you're crazy.

Sunday, October 14, 2007

Today's Inspiration: What Would the Buddha Do About Dieting?


I'm not ready to give up my diet but this is certainly something to think about.

What Would the Buddha Do About Dieting?


Starving one's self might be a great act of self-sacrifice, but it's not kind or compassionate. by Franz Metcalf

Excerpted from "What Would Buddha Do?" with permission from Ulysses Press.

Buddha, having emaciated himself for no reason in cruel self-abuse, realized...that this was not the way to peace, or knowledge, or liberation....One who ruins her body can never gain great awakening.
--Buddhacharita 12.97-99

It may seem odd to compare the two, but the Buddha's striving for awakening and the modern-day compulsion to fit in that leads people to starve themselves in the name of beauty are not so far apart. Before becoming awakened, Buddha spent six years starving himself, trying to fit in with the other renunciants and break away from the impurities--the grossness--of his body. Finally after all those years he realized his self-punishment was only making him weak and confused. Remember, this was Buddha! Imagine how confused a modern teenager or dieter might be.

Let's acknowledge that self-abuse takes enormous discipline and strength and see it as a measure of our greatness of spirit. Then let's remind ourselves and our loved ones that this is the wrong way to express such greatness. Buddha was awakened soon after he began again to eat and to love his body. We must embrace and support our bodies, with all their faults; then with that renewed strength we can embrace and support each other.


Excerpted from "What Would Buddha Do?" by Franz Metcalf, with permission from Ulysses Press.

Saturday, October 13, 2007

R.I.P. Piper ~ ? 2002 - October 13, 2007



We are in mourning here at the castle, having just said goodbye to one of our feline family members. Our sweet and lovely Piper, the most affectionate and loving of our furkids, passed away this morning. Though she had a short and troubled life, we would like to think that we helped make it a happy one. She came to our home unexpectedly, a stray kitty that was living at my ex-husband's fire station...when they decided to spay her, she came to our house for post-op recovery and the rest is history. She adopted Bambi as her own, spending every night and most days curled up on her bed, occasionally wandering into someone else's room for a cuddle or a purr just when the human needed it most. She was a simple soul, we believe that the injuries she sustained on the street affected her mentally as well as physically, but that made her even more special to us. She loved easily and completely, had no fear of anyone, trusted that everyone she encountered was trustworthy and wanted to have a cat perched upon his or her lap. We all loved her dearly, and she will be greatly missed.

Rest in peace, dear Piper, we love you.

Friday, October 12, 2007

Today's Inspiration: Meeting Of The Minds

Daily Om, October 12, 2007
Meeting Of The Minds
Fragments Of The Self

Sometimes it feels as if we have many different people living inside of us, expressing themselves in voices that seem distinct from one another. There is the inner child with its wants and needs, the angry voice that expresses its opinion and probably several more as well. With all these different parts of ourselves express differing desires and needs and opinions, we may begin to feel as if we have no clarity. It is difficult to know which voices to pay attention to and which ones to ignore or dismiss. Even if we manage to move forward amidst the confusion, doubts and concerns may linger in our psyches simply because they have not been fully expressed and examined. As a result, we may have trouble being at peace with the decisions we do make.

One way to handle this dilemma is to consciously make time for a meeting of the minds within our psyche. This can be done as a guided meditation or as a journaling exercise. In both we can summon the many fragments that make up the whole of who we are and give them each a chance to speak. This can be a helpful tool in the face of a decision we need to make, and it can also be a fruitful path to take in the interest of self-exploration and self-care. When we gather the many fragments of our psyche together, the health and power of the whole is greatly increased.

We can imagine a roundtable in which we gather all the various representatives of our being, allowing them to name themselves and giving them a chance to speak. We allow each one to weigh in, fully expressing the perspective they represent, and we listen without comment. As we listen, we may be amazed at the wisdom and energy stored in these fragments of our self. This gathering brings the fragmented pieces of our psyche into a closer relationship, enabling us to move forward as a unified whole.

On My Weekend Hearth: Potato-Leek Gratin


Beren's girls will be visiting this weekend and since we are up to the "L" word on our Veggie Adventure, we'll be making something with leeks. This Cooking Light recipe sounds like perfect kid-friendly comfort food!

Potato-Leek Gratin


"This is the simplest way I know to make a potato gratin. Simmering the vegetables in the milk precooks them somewhat, shortening time in the oven and flavoring the milk, as well. You can easily vary this gratin by substituting some of the potatoes with other root vegetables, such as celery root, turnips, rutabagas, or parsnips. Yukon golds make a beautiful golden gratin, but I also like russets, and sometimes I mix varieties. There will be some leftover gratin, which is always welcome reheated the next day for a simple lunch served with a tossed salad." --Deborah Madison


4 cups 2% reduced-fat milk
2 cups thinly sliced leek (about 2 large)
1 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
3 pounds baking potato, peeled and cut into 1/4-inch-thick slices
2 thyme sprigs
1 bay leaf
1 garlic clove, minced
Cooking spray
1 cup (4 ounces) shredded Gruyère cheese

Preheat oven to 375°.

Place milk, leek, salt, pepper, potato, thyme, bay leaf, and garlic in a Dutch oven; bring to a boil. Cover, reduce heat, and simmer 10 minutes or until potatoes are tender. Discard thyme and bay leaf.

Spoon half of the potato mixture into a 13 x 9-inch baking dish coated with cooking spray. Sprinkle with 1/2 cup cheese. Top with remaining potato mixture and remaining 1/2 cup cheese. Bake at 375° for 1 hour or until golden brown. Let stand for 10 minutes before serving.


Yield: 6 servings

CALORIES 362 (24% from fat); FAT 9.6g (sat 5.6g,mono 2.8g,poly 0.6g); PROTEIN 15.2g; CHOLESTEROL 33mg; CALCIUM 426mg; SODIUM 555mg; FIBER 4.5g; IRON 1.5mg; CARBOHYDRATE 55g

Cooking Light, SEPTEMBER 2007

Sunday, October 7, 2007

Autumn at the Castle







I'm pretending it's not 80-something outside, am doing some Autumn baking and cooking and enjoying the decorations I put up last week! Above is my entryway table, those are framed reproductions of antique Halloween cards. The little witch hat & sign sits atop my corner wine bar.

Below is my dining room table, underneath is the dining room "wreath" I made using a Christmas card holder. Again, the cards are simply copies of vintage postcards. I really like the affect, what do you think?







And last but not least is Jezebel, my favorite little witchy kitty!

Wonderful Weekend


We're having a wonderful weekend so far, a perfect combination of work & play. Friday was spent on the boat, sailed all around Biscayne Bay and even as far out as Stiltsville! Even though we got caught in some rain, it was still a lovely day of sailing.





Saturday was spent doing some much-needed castle maintenance, visiting with friends & family, then we headed to Oktoberfest. We had a great time dancing to the live band and enjoying the delicious German food & beer. Yummy!

Today is football, movies, and perhaps a dip in the pool, weather permitting. Hope everyone is having an enjoyable weekend as well!

On My Recent Hearth

Lily made this meal the other night, it was absolutely fabulous! A perfect Autumn dinner even if it's still 90 degrees outside.

Stuffed Zucchini and Red Bell Peppers

Recipe courtesy Giada De Laurentiis, Lily's favorite chef. Note: She substituted veggie crumbles for the turkey making this a tasty vegetarian dish.

2 tablespoons olive oil
1 small onion, grated
1/4 cup chopped fresh Italian parsley leaves
1 large egg
3 tablespoons ketchup
3 garlic cloves, minced
1 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
1/3 cup grated Pecorino Romano
1/4 cup dried plain bread crumbs
1 pound ground turkey, preferably dark meat
2 zucchini, ends removed, halved lengthwise and crosswise
1 short orange bell pepper, halved and seeded
1 short red bell pepper, halved and seeded
1 short yellow bell pepper, halved and seeded
1 1/2 cups marinara sauce

Preheat the oven to 400 degrees F.

Lightly drizzle the olive oil into a 13 by 9 by 2-inch baking dish. Whisk the onion, parsley, egg, ketchup, garlic, salt, and pepper in a large bowl to blend. Stir in the cheese and bread crumbs. Mix in the turkey. Cover and refrigerate the turkey mixture.

Using a melon baller or spoon, carefully scrape out the seeds and inner flesh from the zucchini, leaving 1/8-inch-thick shells. Be careful not to pierce through the skin. Fill the zucchini and pepper halves with the turkey mixture, dividing equally and mounding slightly. Arrange the stuffed vegetables in the baking dish. Pour the marinara sauce over the stuffed vegetables.

Bake uncovered until the vegetables are tender and beginning to brown and a thermometer inserted into the filling registers 165 degrees F, about 45 minutes. Transfer the stuffed vegetables to a platter and serve.


Recipe Summary
Difficulty: Easy
Prep Time: 20 minutes
Cook Time: 45 minutes
Yield: 6 servings
User Rating: 5 Stars

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Blueberry and Nectarine Cobbler
From Food Network Kitchens

When adding juicy summer fruit (like blueberries) to pies and cobblers, you generally need something to help the fruit coalesce into a sauce. We love instant tapioca, as it thickens while fading into the background, letting the fruit shine.

Fruit:
6 ripe nectarines, about 1 pound
2 cups fresh blueberries
1 cup sugar
1 tablespoon instant tapioca
2 tablespoons unsalted butter, diced into small pieces, plus more for the pan

Cobbler Top:
1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1/3 cup sugar
2 1/4 teaspoons baking powder
1/2 teaspoon fine salt
6 tablespoons cold unsalted butter, diced into small pieces
1 large egg
1/2 cup heavy cream

Serving suggestions: Vanilla ice cream or whipped cream

Position a rack in the middle of the oven and preheat to 375 degrees F.

For the fruit: Halve the nectarines along their natural seam, but leave skins on. Cut each half into 3 wedges. Toss nectarines with blueberries, sugar, and tapioca and put into a buttered 9-inch round gratin or casserole dish. Dot the top of the fruit with the pieces of butter.

For the cobbler top: Whisk the flour, sugar, baking powder, and salt in a medium bowl. Rub in 2 tablespoons of the butter with your fingertips until no visible pieces remain. Rub in the remaining 4 tablespoons butter just until it is in even, pea-size pieces. Whisk together the egg and cream and stir into the dry ingredients to make a shaggy, loose dough.

Spoon large spoonfuls of dough on top of the fruit in clumps (it should look like rough, old-fashioned cobblestones, hence the name cobbler). Bake until golden brown and a toothpick inserted in the center of the topping comes out clean, about 1 hour. Cool cobbler on a rack, about 20 minutes.

Serve warm or room temperature, with vanilla ice cream or whipped cream, if desired.

Tuesday, October 2, 2007

Daily Inspiration: Moving Through Darkness




Daily Om October 2, 2007
Moving Through Darkness
The Places We Go

In life, most of us want things to go to the places we have envisioned ourselves going. We have plans and visions, some of them divinely inspired, that we want to see through to completion. We want to be happy, successful, and healthy, all of which are perfectly natural and perfectly human. So when life takes us to places we didn’t consciously want to go, we often feel as if something has gone wrong, or we must have made a mistake somewhere along the line, or any number of other disheartening possibilities. This is just life’s way of taking us to a place we need to go for reasons that go deeper than our own ability to reason. These hard knocks and trials are designed to shed light on our unconscious workings and deepen our experience of reality.

Often it takes something major to wake us up, to shake us loose from our ego’s grip as it struggles to maintain an illusion of control. It is loss of control more than anything else that humbles us and enables us to see the big picture. It reminds us that the key to the universe lies in what we do not know, and what we do know is a small fraction of the great mystery in which we live. This awareness softens and lightens us, as we release our resistance to what is. Another gift gleaned from going to these seemingly undesirable places is that, in our response to difficulty, we can see all the patterns and unresolved emotional baggage that stand in the way of our unconditional joyfulness. Joy exists within us independently of whether things go our way or not. And when we don’t feel it, we can trust that we will find it if we are willing to surrender to the situation, moving through it as we move through our difficult feelings.

We can take our inspiration from any fairy tale that finds its central character lost in a dark wood, frightened and alone. We know that the journey through the wood provides its own kind of beauty and richness. On the other side, we will emerge transformed, lighter and brighter, braver and more confident for having moved through that darkness.

Quiet Time


Thanks so much to all of you who are still visiting The Castle even though I have been remiss in my writing. I've been putting my focus elsewhere - lots of reading, Halloween decorating, cooking, movie watching, a bit of exercising. I've been exploring some new interests, more about that later. Not a lot of writing or even as much computer time. *shrug* Not sure what's up but I'm just listening to myself and doing what feels right. Maybe this is the way I'm handling the ongoing stress and continuous changes that continue to be hurled at me, not to mention the enormous stress that others close to me are experiencing. (yeah, I tend to soak up their emotions, too). I normally vent, either through blogging or my friends, and I'm still doing a bit of that but mostly I'm self-medicating, for lack of a better word. It's rare for a Leo to withdraw..grin..but when we do, it's for good reason and is much better for us and the people around us, believe me.

So, again, thank you. I do read all of your lovely comments and am so glad that my blogging friends are hanging in there with me. I promise I'll be visiting your own fabulous sites again soon.

Love to all..xoxoxoxo